Hi, I’m Jody King-Colegrove with Quantum Techniques. Today, I’m talking about defining emotional intelligence and how to grow it. Here’s a few ideas that I have:
The first is practice deep breathing. That’s what meditation is. Doing even just a little bit of yoga each morning, like sun salutations, will get you breathing in and out. Also, just sitting quietly, and taking maybe five deep breaths in and out, is a way of giving your body the ability to oxygenate the blood, help release stress and anxiety, exhaustion, and even suppression. Try adding that to your morning workout routine; deep breathing will help you to get in touch with your true being. It’s best to do this first thing in the morning.
The next thing is practicing self-compassion. Many times we have that critical voice that comes into our brain. When it arrives, first it’s important to recognize it – be aware of it and say “Stop. Hey, maybe I am telling myself something that I shouldn’t be.” Having the awareness to stop it is critical. Then I say, “Thank you for coming – now, be on your way.” At least acknowledge that it was present, rather than trying to avoid it.
When you notice critical self-talk creeping in, think about what a friend would say if you were sharing that information with them. Would they be as critical? Typically they would not. They might say, “Hey, no, don’t think about that.”, or “I’d think about it this way.” Usually you get a loving, kind statement from a friend. Be aware that each one of us is our own worst critic, instead of being our best lover and accepting who we are.
The third way to grow emotional intelligence is to ‘talk it out’. It sounds strange, but when we do talk out our thoughts, we are able to identify that, “Hey, I’m actually thinking this. This is actually something that I’m telling myself that may or may not be true.” There’s many ways you can do that. Often it’s praying out loud, or talking out loud, as you’re on a walk. Another form is to journal what you’re thinking. By writing thoughts down it will help you realize, “Wow, that’s what I’ve written. Do I really believe that?” I am very God-centered, so I create a journal to God. I find that when I’m writing a question at the beginning of the journal entry, by the time I get to the end and I’ve written out all my thoughts, I have the answer. For me, this has always been amazing and very therapeutic and I hope that it could help you too. But if you don’t want to write, you can also simply take a walk and talk it out and that can work just as well.
These are suggestions for those who want to become more emotionally intelligent and being aware of checking in with yourself and being in the moment. When you are aware, you’re going to be in the light and thereby, healing. That’s really important.
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