Beth: My name is Beth Daniel. I’m one of the founders of Quantum Techniques. You’re probably wondering why this character, my husband, Dr. Stephen Daniel, is wearing a belt around his neck. This is not something I’ve been leading him around by. We do have a story for you that really illustrates how working on your own spiritual consciousness and being present in your life makes all the difference in the world.
Stephen: Actually, we have two stories; Beth will tell the first one.
Beth: Look in your life at every moment where you say, “Oh no,” and turn it into an a-ha moment. The first story is we were going out last night for our anniversary celebration to the top restaurant in Maui on the ocean with rave reviews from people all over the world. That was going to be our anniversary dinner.
The heat index in Maui last night probably broke all the records. It was a one hundred-degree heat index. No wind. One-hundred percent humidity and the restaurant, as most restaurants here, did not have air conditioning. We drove up for our anniversary dinner and my husband was wearing this beautiful tank top from my lovely sister-in-law.
Stephen: That I wore at the QT Elite Training this year because it’s beautiful and comfortable.
Beth: We showed up at the restaurant and Stephen was wearing this tank top. We had no idea any restaurant in Maui has a dress code. That just doesn’t exist here. Women can wear something without sleeves, but men can’t. They told him he could not eat at the restaurant unless he wore one of their shirts that they had there with sleeves for the evening. I knew that wasn’t going to happen, so we left.
We drove into a little town nearby and we went to an outdoor place with fans and it’s casual and has good food and we had a great time. We had a fun conversation. Our waitress was so fun and cute and we’re very grateful for her and the food and the breeze, so it was all good. Our oh-no turned into an a-ha.
I had expectations of what this anniversary dinner was going to be, which fortunately or unfortunately, I think women have more expectations about celebrations then men tend to. I had expectations about how I wanted the night to go and we were going to go to this beautiful restaurant and we don’t get there very often. It’s way overpriced. It’s very expensive, so we don’t go there very much, but it’s beautiful. I had these expectations and so I felt a hint of disappointment.
We were talking in the car about where to go and I said, “Oh, I don’t really care,” and I decided, “You know what? Enough of the false self-running the show last night. Let’s be present in the moment and have fun and pick a place we both want to go. It’s really hot. Let’s go somewhere casual and have a great time.” So we did. I decided that the oh-no was going to turn into an a-ha and it did. Watch your expectations and how they run your life and how they run your emotional state and affect you at a deep level, plus everybody else that you’re with. Now on to the belt…
Stephen: The story. In case you haven’t figured it out, I’m very casual. Kind of an old hippie. Here’s the story: I’m about 19 or 20 years old and I’m supposed to be in a big wedding where everybody else is Western, a cowboy wedding. They got all these big tuxes. I’m the only long-haired hippie there.
Somebody picked up all the tuxes at the tux place. They brought them to the church. Evidently, one of the bow ties … I’d never worn a tux before, which will be obvious by the end of the story … had fallen out, so someone just stuck it in one of the jacket pockets. Come to find out later, that was mine.
I’m in the church a half-hour before the wedding and I’ve got my pants on. I’ve got my shirt on. I got my jacket, but because I’m very warm-natured, it will be the last thing I put on. Then there’s the biggest, ugliest-looking tie I’ve ever seen in my life and I’m thinking, “How can I get this around my neck?” I’m trying to wad this thing up, put it around my neck and I couldn’t seem to get it tucked in. This elderly gentleman walks in and he notices me and he says, “Well, is this the first time you’ve ever worn a tux?” I said, “Yeah, how’d you know?” He said, “Well, you’re putting your belt on around your neck.” That’s when I found out what a cummerbund was.
I haven’t worn a tux yet. I think last night I might have gotten over my trauma of being formally dressed, but I don’t intend to do it because I want to be free. Blessings and joy from Maui, Hawaii.