I’m Kristin Killops of Quantum Techniques. One of my favorite quotes is, “If you’re not amazed, you’re not paying attention.” I love that quote because it nails the crucial part of the concept of finding joy.
Here are some examples. First, imagine that you are on an overnight flight to Europe. You’re stuck in the middle seat all squished in and trying to get comfortable so that you can attempt sleep. You’ve got an important engagement the next day, but you can’t sleep because you’re all cranked up about it, not to mention you’re extremely uncomfortable in this darned plane seat. Now I don’t know about you, but when I lie down in bed at night, it’s flat out luxurious. It feels so good to stretch out and be warm and cozy, the day completed and simply time to rest. Back to the airplane…, what you wouldn’t give to just lie down in your own bed! The funny thing is you get to do that every night; every night contains that luxurious experience that you dream of from your squished middle seat. Every night when you crawl into bed it should be that way! But how often instead do we take our concerns of the past day or what’s coming the following day with us? All of these thoughts roll around in our head and we miss the wonderful experience of crawling into bed. It’s right before us; ours for the taking. Every night, better to leave all the day’s struggles and frustrations and the next day’s concerns at the bedroom door. They’re not going to help us when we’re in bed anyway. The simple act of crawling into bed can be heavenly, IF we allow it to be. If you’re not amazed and dazzled, you’re not paying attention.
Another example: you’re walking down the street all in a muddle – concerned about this, fearful of that, regretful of the other. Pay attention to the thoughts recycling and rehashing old garbage, and you suffer. Plain and simple. Ninety plus percent of our thoughts are essentially the same few concerns, endlessly cycling and recycling. Most thoughts are nonsense and only make you feel bad. Let’s go back to walking down the street…, it’s a beautiful sunny day, but you’re all caught up in your brain when all of a sudden you realize, wow, there are a lot of birds singing, the clouds have parted and the sky is a finally blue! Ha – I say finally because I live in Portland, Oregon! You realize right in this moment the beauty of and the experience of the moment. How it’s heaven compared to the cycle of thoughts in your head that are tearing you apart, making you feel badly or anxious. Our mind is a great tool. If we need to figure something out or plan something or do work; use your brain for those things but then be done with it. Experience life. People often say that they have a great job because they can leave everything at the office and don’t have to take work home. It’s the same with our thoughts – leave them “at the office”. Our thoughts can be effective, but don’t drag them out throughout the entire evening, morning or the entire rest of the day and the nighttime. Notice right here, right now. Experience that the more present you are, just how much delight there is in the world!